That is it!!!

Yesterday I was very frustrated with how things work on Sunday. I always get up very excited and hopeful that the kids will behave and try to avoid getting punished for it. We have a simple rule, you sit there quietly and try to listen or you get sent to your room as soon as you get home. I guess they must like the punishment because somehow they always manage to fight with each other or talk too loud, or Tristan cries because he wants to do something, I understand that the sacrament meeting can be boring for the little ones, but also remember how we used to behave as little kids during sacrament and moving around or crying wasn't part of it. Tristan won the prize yesterday because he was the worst one and insisted that he had done a great job behaving... by the end of the meetings I had a huge headache and when we got home I had to lay down for a couple of hours. Mean while Victor in his room took Tristan's matres off the bed and all the toys were on the floor. Shayna's room didn't look any better either. A family in he ward invited us over for dessert at their house and we had fun there, I was just surprised to see their house, it was huge, very elegant and most of all it was clean and on a Sunday!!! I don't know how they do it but my house doesn't look like that at all. I have tried everything to teach my kids to keep things organized and to put away the toys when they are done playing, they can play all they want that is the reason we get the toys for them, but the cleaning part never happens. So last night I decided that today while they are all in school I am getting all their toys out of their room and wont give them back until they can prove to me that they will behave at church and they can be responsible for their own messes. I know this might be a bit extreme but I don't know what else to do. We always try to teach our kids about their actions and consecuences and I know they understand it, but for some reason they choose to ignore it an do it anyways. I know we are not perfect parents and this punishment is probably far from what anybody else would do, but something has to be done right now before it gets worse and they grow up. Why is it that other people have perfectly well behaved kids and I don't? I am not mad at them right now, just a little frustrated and yes I still love them to death, I am just trying to teach them good behavior.