Wow so time goes by when you are busy with life right? I am not going to post everything that we did at the end of the year on one sitting so the posts will come as I get the inspiration to write them...
Today the inspiration is as follows:
A new year and a new begging, for years I have set up my goals at the begging of the year, wow how original but then I realized that I was setting myself for failure because no matter how hard I tried or how many goals I decided I was gonna work on in the end the last day of the year came and my list looked pretty sad :(
It used to bring me down and not look forward to the new year. So I changed my way of thinking and this is all personal stuff by the way, I am not telling anyone what to do or how to go about it.... this is what works for me.
I don't set my goals at the begging of the year instead, I start whenever I feel like I am falling behind on something and they are more like a 4 month long thing, that way if my progress is not that great I can change things around or start all over again but there is not really a set day to finish them. It has worked so far. Now I have been doing this for personal goals, behaviors or things that I want to teach myself or things that you can't really see unless you are me, I am going to start applying that to my physical goals, more like things that need more action and things that my family can see around here. I am starting next week, not today or tomorrow but next week and why you ask? Because next week my mom is leaving us and going to Utah to spend some time with my brother and my family. So why am I waiting for her to leave? Because there is something about my mother that I can't explain but whenever she is around I feel like I am being judge in every single aspect of my life, I know she is not doing it all the time and I am not saying that I don't like hanging out with her but I feel like I am a completely different person around her and that what ever I do will never be enough for her and then I feel like it transfers into my kids, that what ever they do will never be good enough for her either. I am sure that's is not what is going on but that is how I feel when she is around so I don't work out as much, my efforts to eat healthy are not as great, keeping my house clean is not a big deal because it will never look as clean as she would love it to be, which is funny because she is always so willing to help but I don't let her and I know it would make a big difference but I have to prove that I CAN DO IT ON MY OWN!!!
It is funny how some things don't change from when we are kids and how some of the old feeling come back to you even when you are a grown person, I can't help feeling this way and I hope that next time she comes to visit I will conquer my demons and she will see that I can do it all on my own.
I have been struggling with my weight issues for years and it has been a big battle for me... health issues kept me from trying my hardest to stay strong and keep going, sometimes I have the support I seek and sometimes I don't... it happens. Last year was great after my surgery because I had the strong will to get back into shape and I did it, I did really good and started to see some change in me. I think my health issues were a big thing that were keeping me from getting to my goal, now I am so close and at the same time I am so scared to get there but I am still trying. I was able to get back to the weight I was before the surgery and keep that weight off, I haven't been as active in the last 4 months but like I said previously it will change next week. I am on the right track and can see that eating right in the last 4-6 years has been helping a lot. I think also my body is crazy and my metabolism keep changing on me, around Christmas time I thought I was going to gain all the weight back but I ate a lot of stuff and the weight still came off... I guess making the right choices does help...
The one big thing we will be doing for our kids years and the main reason why my mom has to leave... is that we are making big changes in their sleeping arrangements. It has always been my dream that when Shayna got a little sister they would share a room together and that time has finally come and she is willing to share her space with Kahlan. I have so many ideas and can't wait to get that ball rolling. The girls will change into the boys room and the youngest two boys will go into Shayna's room, the space will be perfect for those two crazy active boys and I will be making murals for them with the super hero theme. I have the room all planned in my head. Shayna is designing her own mural with some help from pinterest and she really needs to compromise on the color scheme since Kahlan will own two of the walls in that room. Now Victor will be the lucky person this time around and will have a room all to himself. "The guest room" will finally be used as a real room and not only for guests, it wont be used only 4 months out of the year but will be all for him. He is so excited also coming up with his own idea for the mural that I will make for him, he is thinking about shelves on the wall and displaying all his Lego creations up there, all his Scout stuff and of course to finally keep his thing out of reach of the younger ones. Poor guys he has been sharing the space with 2 kids who have to idea what keeping a clean room means and have not respect for his property. He has a good collection of books to keep his own bookshelf and all in all he is way excited about it. If for any reason we do have a visitor he will sacrifice the space of course and let the guest stay there but for the most part ti will be his kingdom :)
We will get them all new furniture and we will spend some money on paint and other things, it will be the biggest project we will have so far in this house but I am looking forward to it and can't wait to see the end result.
So far that's it....